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Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

”Sex comes from love.”

Arranged marriages have nothing to do with love, but those people still have sex. Sex is just a duty, a mechanical operation, like washing dishes or digging a ditch. There is no intimacy or understanding because it is not necessary when marriage is just a duty.

Art imitates life and life imitates art, but mostly cinema is a fantasy and an escape from the duty in life.

ARVIND K.PANDEY

ARVIND K.PANDEY — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

”Arranged marriages have nothing to do with love, but those people still have sex.”

You know nothing about arranged marriages.So it’s better that you say least in matters lying beyond realm of your real experiences.

The real world is different from the one expressed in theories and perceptions of distorted authors.

Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

It happened to a friend of mine, he went home for spring break and found a wife waiting for him!!! Two days later he was married, and it was a big wedding, so they had been planning it for a while. Five days later he was back in the US. When all they guys started teasing him about not being a virgin any more, he confessed to me that he still was. He said she was scared and he didn’t even know her. He didn’t go home again until he graduated, almost a year. Love had nothing to do with that.

Adjusting to a situation is not the same as loving it. People with broken backs adjust to the pain sometimes, but you know they would really rather not be in pain.

Apparently, you have never been in love?

ARVIND K.PANDEY

ARVIND K.PANDEY — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

@Nuya

Adjustments are integral part of life.Do people in love don’t make adjustments?

Love is in abundance in arranged marriages but your limited experience may never let you have access to the real picture !!

Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

”Love is in abundance in arranged marriages but your limited experience may never let you have access to the real picture !!”

Have you ever been in love?

Do you even have any idea what love is?

It is doing something for someone else just because their happiness means more to you than your own, and not because you have a duty to do it.

When I make a cup of tea for myself, I bring one to my husband too. When he makes tea, he makes some for me, he doesn’t ask me, tell me, or expect me to make it just because I am female.

He took a lower paying job, for a year so that he could be home when the kids came home from school so that I could finish my education. No duty, no resentment, no adjustment, just love.

ARVIND K.PANDEY

ARVIND K.PANDEY — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

@Nuya

Yes,I have been in love.I know this revelation would be unpalatable to you!!

Anyway,it’s not necessary to taste poison to know that it kills !!

Instead of being guided by theories spread in books just get real.You are more in tune with distorted second hand version of Indian culture or India or religion.That’s not an ideal way to understand beliefs of others.

Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

@Arvind

I am happy to know that you have known love, sorry to hear you compare it to poison, but whatever.

Well, I am learning a whole lot about Indian culture from you, I have to say you are not painting a very pretty picture.

ARVIND K.PANDEY

ARVIND K.PANDEY — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

@Mary

You have hit the nail on the head.But there on many on Instablogs and elsewhere who believe that producers of these cheap movies offer what viewers want to see.It’s based on demand and supply.According to them if people start appreciating such movies,there will be dearth of such movies.

I know this is just an excuse to provide space for sex oriented movies.

Anyway,you must be aware of the fact that there are many filmmakers who portray real colours of life.The problem is that there are few takers of such movies .

Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

”Anyway,you must be aware of the fact that there are many filmmakers who portray real colours of life.The problem is that there are few takers of such movies.”

Oh really?

Slumdog Millionaire was ’real colors of life’ and it was not plagued by few takers.

It was kind of a big deal, well it was here anyway. I don’t know how it was received in India but HUGE HUGE, here.Academy awards, Golden globe, BAFTA etc. The writer was British, the director Scottish, the Director for the parts filmed in India was an Indian woman, the stars all Indian. so it was a joint effort. The attention that it generated to the plight of kids in the slums was PHENOMENAL world wide. Movies can and have made great contributions. If you are just watching fluff pieces, all you are going to see images strung together for shock value.

There is nothing wrong with with a little escapism every now and then, but you shouldn’t make a steady diet of it.

ARVIND K.PANDEY

ARVIND K.PANDEY — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

@Nuya

The Indian directors have made better movies than Slumdog Millionaire!! Why didn’t they get attention ?

The success of Slumdog Millionaire also indicates at Western countries obsession for prejudiced version of Indian state of affairs!!

Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

LOL, you are so funny Arvind, 1 movie does not an obsession make!

Prejudicial state of Indian affairs? So there are no slums in India?

There are slums everywhere! trying to hide the fact only makes matters worse. After they made movies about real slums in America, people went out and cleaned them up.

ARVIND K.PANDEY

ARVIND K.PANDEY — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

@Nuya

You read too much into something !!That’s why you are not able to intercept simple responses with their actual purport.

Did I say something about the slums ?

You have to read reports published in Western journals to understand the mentality of Western countries.I am sure that all they love is versions on par with their limited interests!!

Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

UM!...WELL...since the movie is called SLUMdog millionaire.....about kids from the slums... and was set in a slum... what else you could possibly be referring?

Mina

Mina — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

The things are changing rapidly with the globalization. We have to take note of the growing awareness of everything in the world. Children have easy access to all kind of things now.

So rather than criticizing any other factor, we should concentrate on a solution to keep our children safe from such negativity.

Nuya Bidness

Nuya Bidness — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:00:00 +0000

Exactly! It is our responsibility to raise our children, NOT the responsibility of film makers to raise our children for us.

If a parent does not care enough about his/her own child to monitor what they are watching, they have no one to blame but themselves if the child is exposed to inappropriate material.

I do how ever take exception to billboards displaying provocative material. That you cannot shield your child from. But every other form of media, you have control over.